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I Asked 5 Black Men Why They Don’t Date Black Women And Their Answers Were Shocking But Not Surprising. I began writing this piece with the intention to understand why some Black men purposely choose not to date Black women. I whole-heartedly believe many interracial relationships are founded in love (my father is Black and my mother is of Hispanic and Palestinian decent), but as I spoke to more and more Black men, I realized many of their reasoning behind their choice to date outside their race was rooted in passed down stereotypes and beauty biases that are not only untrue, but hurtful.

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“Who wants to deal with a bunch of eye-rolling and neck snapping?” said one man during a transparent conversation. I appreciated his honesty, but it led me to think of him as weak-minded. I thought of a phrase my grandmother would say: “If you can’t stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen.” A fiery woman isn’t for everyone and we should be thankful when the weak separate themselves. “ My mother told me that if a woman can’t grow her hair, it’s because she’s not healthy,” revealed another misinformed Black man. Sadly, it became a running theme throughout these interviews that the men I questioned were taught certain beauty biases from none other than their own mothers. This was an ugly reminder how self-hatred is so deeply engrained in our psyche. “I was 15 and talking to my friend about this brown-skinned girl I really liked. My friend told me that I couldn’t date a dark-skinned girl cause it wasn’t cool and they weren’t pretty. Then he told me that their ‘vagina looked like roast beef.’ I’ve never seen one so I believed him.” My conversation with this 29-year-old New Yorker was the first time I ever realized that peer pressure could very well be a major reason many men suppress their natural attraction to the dark-skinned woman. Young Black men see their favorite musicians and athletes date only date a certain type of woman, which subconsciously sends a message that it’s the “cool” thing to do.